Visitation Order? Or Parenting Plan? Which is best?
NEVER EVER submit to an agreement of visitation on the Custodial parent's terms. Those terms are almost always lined up with the Court's understanding of what parenthood looks like when parents split. They assume the non-custodial parent doesn't care, so they're used to the "Every other Saturday from 12pm-6pm." However, if you're sitting at the table across from your ex and the mediator, you don't have to "agree" to ANYTHING. And you don't have to wait for the judge to make the decision. Instead, introduce a Parenting Plan . The more complex, the better. You want to make sure every single base is covered, and the Custodial parent can't create a loophole in time and space to mess up your memories with your children. For instance, exactly WHEN is "every OTHER Saturday?" Who can keep track of that? Instead, in your Parenting Plan, you have to include exact times and dates: "Every First and Third weekend of every mo...